Be the Woman a Man Needs

"She is defined and differentiated with reference to man and not with reference to her..."

- Simone De Beauvoir

In my philosophy of sex and love class, one thing that has stuck with me is that women tend to make having a man a priority, whereas a man, makes it a part of their checklist.

Girls these days run around searching for a man to take them out, to care for them, to make their everything. They become dependent to this man, and once that happens the man has complete control. As women becomes the woman who needs a man, she becomes the subject. She looses herself in him, idolizing him, and has no room for growth. She was made his.

When one becomes the woman a man needs, he respects her, allows her to have her own ideology, she has room to grow, and him as well. They grow together and become a team. She no longer is the Other, but the One. She is herself.